First, how rare are 30-year-old male virgins? Has anyone here lost
their virginity after 30? (I suppose I mean to exclude from this
question people who purposefully made a choice to abtain prior to
marriage.) Does anyone have any (preferably recent) links or materials
as to the age when men lose their virginity? Even if I knew that it was
as low as 1% of the population, that still lets me think to myself that
that probably translates into at least 100 or 200 guys in the same boat
here in Chicago, and ten or twenty thousand nationally. It would let me
feel a little less like the Only Virginal Freak in the World.
My second question is for the women here. Please tell me, honestly,
what your reaction to a partner would be if he told you he was a
virgin. Don’t try to spare my feelings, because I frankly need your
honesty here. My initial desire is to be honest with whomever my first
partner is, because we’ll be in a caring relationship, and heck, for
all I know, it might be a positive thing in their eyes. But I’ve heard
from a few (male) friends of mine that this is something I shouldn’t
reveal … that it will make them wonder what the hell is wrong with
me. Of course, there’s also the fact that my first time will probably
very obviously be my first time to my partner whether I tell her or not.
The responses for the most part have been kind and understanding, which runs counter to the insinuation that the Internet is a nasty place full of liars that a lot of journos have been making as of late. In fact, the questions and responses show just the sort of thing that might not have been possible outside of the ‘net and certainly not possible within a newspaper or magazine.