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Things queer culture teaches you that straight culture doesn’t

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Straight culture could stand to borrow a few ideas from queer culture.

Here’s the text of the poster above:

Things Queer Culture Teaches You That Straight Culture Doesn’t

  • You don’t have to get married if you don’t want to.
  • You don’t have to have kids if you don’t want to.
  • It’s nobody’s job to flirt with you or be flirted with. If you’re into someone, do the work and tell them.
  • People will judge you and reject you without knowing you. This isn’t your fault. You’re not the broken one.
  • Your clothing and other style choices are to make YOU feel good first and foremost.
  • Signaling to other people is the secondary job of hair and clothes. But don’t dress for them. Be you, they’ll see it.
  • Anyone who judges you badly for your hair and clothes is not your people and can fuck off.
  • Physical affection in public is an act of deliberate courage.
  • Family is a matter of choice. Loyalty is a two-way street.
  • Mental health is important and it’s hard. Anxiety and depression are natural reactions to the world.
  • Sensitivity isn’t weakness. It just means you pay attention.
  • People who think “sex” only means a penis in a vagina deserve pity. (They don’t deserve better sex, just pity.)
  • Everyone who’s interesting reinvented themselves after their world fell apart. Just like you did.
  • Community is a safety net from an unfair world. Let it catch you when you need it. Catch others when you can.
  • Don’t live your life for anyone else’s happiness. Live for your own, and share it.
Joey deVilla

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